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Little Miss Positivity April 16, 2009

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I used to get really upset because I was obsessed with thinking that all my friends – all the people around me had it so much easier then me.

In my first hour at Uni I met an amazing friend, someone who really got me and in the first couple of hours I met for the second time my Soul Mate. Everything was great 🙂 til the next morning when I found out my granddad had died, alone in bed that night. A mix of grieve and freshers flu kept me from meeting anyone and when it came to my lessons the horrible realisation that I was on the wrong course, at the wrong place hit me and suddenly a life choice, going to University, which had always been a given for me became something I didn’t want. In the next few days I was bullied out of my Uni Dorm and never went back – me and my partner lived on the floor of that great friend I’d met in my first hour. In this time my Nan passed away from Cancer.

I had never got over the death of my grandparents – people say it gets easier with time – It really doesn’t. I celebrated both their birthdays this year even though my mum told me ‘the dead don’t have birthdays’ and I still think about them often. More then 18 months later it still haunts me that I don’t remember the last time I saw my grandad, the fact he died alone whilst his wife was in hospital or my nan’s face when I last saw her. She didn’t recognise me and it hurt so much, I went to leave and she was crying ‘I love you’ at me and I just left still, too hurt to see her as she was. I wish I’d stayed. I wish they were still alive.

A month later we were living in hotels through checks and student overdrafts. My parents were furious and that ‘great friend’ had declared her love for my partner asking him to leave me – but not before she spent a few weeks trying to kiss him whilst I wasn’t looking. I properly left University, convinced it was the wrong choice but I didn’t want to go home either – We stayed – in fact for months we managed in Hotels for food and a bed. I’m really not sure how. In November we moved into an apartment way beyond our means because of a friend who a month later left to go home for Christmas and never came back. Still with no jobs we were constantly scrouging for food and never paid rent or bills. In January my partner got a job and a colleague of his moved in – the job funnily enough turned out to attackbe with a company reputed for not paying their staff and the colleague? A habitual drug user – he smoked a spliff in the morning before going to the loo/getting food or showering. He brought back a bunch of friends that did pills, E etc one night at 4am, got agressive, attacked me and after being pinned to the wall by my partner – left. He left without paying any rent and my partner was fired because the drug user was personal friends with the boss who also both happened to be personal friends of a drug dealer. This guy who not only made our lives a living hell but would follow me to and from work.Without actually doing anything to us though, the Police couldn’t do anything.

A few days after he left a couple moved into our place – again they were mates and they desperately needed to move out as the father of the guy was sexually harassing the girl. So we did them a favour. I clearly remember me and my partner’s first Valentines together. We both had to work but were going to go to the cinema later that night – on the way back from work we got a call from the girl who lived with us in tears. The landlords and the estate agent had broken into the apartment and gone through all of our paperwork. They didn’t find anything but they did tell the girl that we were sub-letting the apartment illegally and so she’d have to move out. I called my mum who is an estate agent and had a copy of our agreement to call the landlords out on their bullshit and everything was fine for a bit. Par the ‘we were behind on rent’ thing – but not 2 months so we still had time. Two weeks later the couple decided they couldn’t live on their own anymore and moved out – whilst me and my partner were at work and again, without paying rent. The next day made us officially 2 months overdue and we were served with an eviction notice. I remember spending nights crying because we simply had nowhere to go, nothing to eat and with tomorrow came absolute despair.

It was only through sheer luck perhaps that we found our way out. I contacted a bunch of landlords and told them that we couldn’t afford a desposit due to our car breaking down and having to pay out for it – but thanks to the drug user leaving his Xbox, we had £200 for the first months rent. A room was found and ten minutes before our old ‘breaking and entering’ landlords came to ‘collect the rest of the rent’ – we were gone. Ready to start a new life 🙂 It was pretty quiet for a few months, hard – of course – I was the only one working and that was a part time job. Non of my friends from high school bothered staying in touch with me and neither of our parents were talking to us – it was pretty lonely. No money, No friends but we always found reasons to be happy – knowing how stressful it had been in the previous place. In March I found out I was pregnant – we never decided what to do because a week later on my 19th Birthday, I had a miscarriage. At the time, it didn’t really affect me – I think I was going through too much other stuff but it got to the point when a year on I would cry when I saw a child or baby in the street. Especially now when I’m pregnant again – I’ve been terrified of losing it, and I keep wondering what my ‘first child’ would have been like’. This and the rape (August 10th 07 – I can’t believe I still remember the date) has really taken a hit to my sexual self. A few weeks later another girl who my partner had been talking to online announced her undying love for him and a few weeks later the drug dealer followed me home from work to our new place. The police wouldn’t do anything so we had to move.

It started getting bad again – especially since in the new place, the landlord had no concept of tennant’s rights – turning up at all hours. He was awful and within one month not only had I developed an anxiety disorder but we moved out. Again. In this place was our worse time for not having things to eat – going two weeks where we could only afford to eat a pack of noodles a day. For close to a year now we’d been living out of suitcases.

Place number four and we come to the anniversary of my granddads death. Purely chosen because the landlords had told us we were allowed our two cats there; we lived fine here til a girl moved in down stairs. She would knock on our door at all hours, she’d bring home different guys every night, she’d eat our food and basically interfer with our lives. In fact, she is the only person who I have ever come close to punching in the face – which if you know me is bad since I am not an aggressive or violent person. After a few weeks, 2 things happened – A French couple complained about our cats – despite having never seen them and the landlords conviently ‘forgot’ that they said we were allowed them despite me having an e-mail stating so and 2) I lost my job. We were exhausted of life, no money, no job, no family, no friends, no break. So we upped it down South.

I’m going to stop there despite having a stint on the street coming up – but I will explain my point. I know I’ve had a hard life and it used to upset me that other’s seemed to have it easy. Now it doesn’t. In fact I’m very happy – because no matter how bad it got, time moved on and so did we. I also know now that what we went through? Many many others have and are. I talked to a girl just the other night that pretty much exactly described the pretty pathetic situation we were in. I still think my old mates have had it easier but they won’t – in the end everyone gets their share of misfortune and whilst it’s true, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. If someone doesn’t understand what I’ve been through/am going through then I just smile and think ‘Lucky them, I hope they never do understand.’

Personally it makes me happy to be alive – I used to be drained by the shallowness of things – now I understand the importance of them and don’t dwell so much on the ‘deep’ stuff.

woot1What I”m trying to say is – Be Happy – if you’re not, figure out why and go for it – there’s too much sorrow in life to make your own. It’s too easy to be happy for you not to be. Sadness is what takes effort – that’s why it drains you. Be happy you even have family, or you have food, or the sun is shining, or it’s Thursday. Be Happy that you can see, have assess to the internet, can walk – be happy that if you’re upset the natural rule of life is change and so it will.

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Geek Update April 22, 2009

Filed under: Personal — MintchipMonkey @ 9:02 pm




I just hit level 60! After 4 years of being an alt-addict, I’ve finally got to end game (*ahem* well end game pre-TBC) but wooooo! I actually never thought I’d do it because I get bored of characters so easily but I’ve really stuck at this one 11 – It took roughly 7 days of constant play (Made the char on 31st Jan 09, so roughly 168 hours spread over 4 months). And I finally look good! The type of hat that I’ve been longing for dropped randomly as well about an hour before I dinged and the stats were amazing 🙂 So in the great purge of all under gear stuff for all the ‘requires level 60’ gear I’ve got from AQ40 I got to keep it on 38



Happy Earth Day

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tired-2“When is this Earth Day that I keep seeing articles for?” *heads for google* “Oh – it’s today.”

11Happy Earth Day!11

“Great, wonder what that actually means.” *heads for wikipedia*

Earth Day, celebrated April 22, is a day designed to inspire awareness and appreciation for the Earth’s environment. It was founded by U.S. Senator Gaylord Nelson as an environmental teach-in in 1970 and is celebrated in many countries every year. This date is Spring in the Northern Hemisphere and Autumn in the Southern Hemisphere.

“Gre…at – a holiday founded by Gaylord.” *goes to the Earth Day website*

Earth Day founder Gaylord Nelson, then a U.S. Senator from Wisconsin, proposed the first nationwide environmental protest “to shake up the political establishment and force this issue onto the national agenda. ” “It was a gamble,” he recalls, “but it worked.”

“Wow, wiki was telling the truth


Seen from the sky, a colorful sand sculpture on Islamorada in the Florida Keys encourages people to "Embrace the Earth" as part of Earth Day activities in April 2004.

This holiday is for the environmentalists – which I have to admit, although I look into the issues, I turn my lights off when they’re not in use, don’t leave things on standby – I have never been an active campaigner for this. Don’t get me wrong, I think looking after the planet is great, but I guess I just get on with it without really thinking about it. I was completely ignorant about this holiday that has been around as long as Queen Latifah. So if you’re like me but want to participate next year here’s ‘What you can do‘ from the official site!

On a similar but altogether different topic, National Geographic has thrown up some interesting news today: Most Earthlike Planet found, May have liquid oceans.

I am a sucker for this kind of thing, and I suppose if Earth Day doesn’t work out – it’s probably good to have a plan B.

First discovered in 2007, Gliese 581d was originally calculated to be too far away from its host star—and therefore too cold—to support an ocean. But Mayor and colleagues now show that the extrasolar planet, or exoplanet, orbits its host in 66.8 days, putting it just inside the cool star’s habitable zone.

If life is going to be found out there, then this could be where – how exciting is that? Did I mention the irony at finding a possibly habitable planet around the same time we celebrate ‘We’re destroying this world, let’s get back on track’ day?




Formula is still cheaper than a Boob Job April 21, 2009

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I’ve been learning about Breast-feeding and Bottle-feeding today, mainly because I’m being a woman and worrying about silly things like financing and being prepared etc – 18Thought I’d sum this up for you as well in case it’s useful as loads of different sites give different answers and different options.From the information I made 5 caterogies: Baby’s Health, Mum’s Health, Dad’s relationship, Ease and Cost. I’ve put the Results and Conclusion first, not sure why – I just thought it looked neater and then at the bottom are the findings and our decision.

The Results

Baby’s Health: Breastfeeding

Mum’s Health: 50/50
You can bond with your child, get your figure back and get protected against cancer but you will be exhausted, it may hurt and your boobs will sag which will hurt your self-image and confidence.

Dad’s relationship: Bottle-Feed

Ease: 40/60 Bottle-Feed
Whilst breast-feeding you don’t have to make up bottles and you don’t put your child at danger if you mix the wrong quantity of water and forumla or by passing on disease if the bottle nipple isn’t sterilised properly. However Bottle feeding means it can be done anywhere at any time without problem and importantly the responsiblity can be shared by the mother, father or care-givers etc, bottle-fed babies are known to sleep longer and feel full longer. As an extra bonus you know how much your child is drinking.

Cost: Breastfeeding
Breasting is free whilst Forumla costs £12 a week (£50 a month) not including all the bottles, sterilising things etc.


In conclusion Bottle Feeding is pro Dad, pro Ease and pro Mum’s health and Breast-feeding is pro Baby’s Health, Pro Mum’s health and Pro Cost.



All Pro Breast-feeding facts are in Blue (Dark Blue =Pro-Breast-Feeding and Light Blue = Anti Bottle-Feeding) and All Pro Bottle-Feeding stuff is in Purple (Dark Purple = Anti Breast-Feeding and Light Purple = Pro Bottle-feeding).


  • Breastfeeding gives everything the baby needs, including things not in the forumla.
  • It strengthens her immune system and protects her against infection, diseases and obesity.
  • Your milk is always on tap, at the right temperature, and its composition alters to suit your baby’s changing needs.
  • Babies taking formula have more problems with gas and constipation and have firmer bowel movements
  • Antibodies are not found in formula making the baby more susceptible to illness.


  • It helps you bond with your baby.
  • It helps you get your figure back: as your baby suckles, you’ll feel your womb contracting.
  • Mums who breastfeed are less likely to develop ovarian and breast cancer and osteoporosis.
  • It can be exhausting.
  • It may hurt. Some women find it takes months before they feel completely comfortable when their baby latches on.
  • Your boobs will get bigger (if you were already a 36E, you might not regard this as a plus).


  • Some dads feel ostracised by the bond between breastfeeding mother and baby, and this can be detrimental to your relationship.
  • Leaky (and/or sore) boobs, plus libido-dampening breastfeeding hormones, may scupper your sex life.
  • Anyone can feed the baby with the bottle at any time. This may also give your partner chance to be more involved in the feeding process.


  • You don’t have to make up (or sterilise) bottles.
  • The formula available in the market needs to be mixed with the proper quantity of water each time and bottles and nipples need to be sterilised. There are ready-to-feed formulas available, but they tend to be expensive.
  • If the bottles or nipples are not properly cleaned there is a risk of transmitting bacterial infections. Formula left in the bottle for more than one hour must be thrown out.
  • Breastfeeding is a one-woman job: you can’t delegate, so those 4am feeds are down to you. It takes as long to express milk (so someone else can feed it to your baby from a bottle) as it does to feed your baby.
  • Breastfed babies may not learn to sleep through the night as early as those who are bottlefed.
  • Formula usually takes longer to digest than breast milk, so the time gap between feeding is longer and babies need to eat less often.
  • The mother can go about her daily chores, or to work without frequent feeding intervals or pumping. She can also leave the child under the care of her partner, or other caretaker. In public, bottle-feeding is much more convenient.
  • With bottle-feeding, you know how much milk your baby is drinking.


  • Breastfeeding is free.
  • Formula is a constant expense while mother’s milk is free.

The Decision

So after a talk with the Mr, we’ve gone with?

Bottle Feeding

Why? Because Forumla may be expensive but it’s still cheaper then a Boob Job.

The only real main advantage I can see to Breast-feeding is that it builds a natural immunity fast which can be done with good diet and nutrients anyway, plus I have no idea what kind of dirt is in my milk (disease wise) – so I don’t want to risk the possiblity of giving him something. Other then that we decided that a run and an apple will combat obesity much more effectively then breast-feeding. Just maybe.

The main reason though is to keep the family together. Bottle-feeding is something that can be shared and seems much more convinent so long as you make sure everything is clean. Mr loves me very much but I would not blame him after having to deal with a crazy bitch for 9 months to get a little strained when the mood swings, low libido and exhaustion continues for an extra year – quite frankly we rather our kid still have two parents at the end of it all rather then ‘milk on tap’.

The whole ‘gets your figure back’ thing is nice but can be just as easily done with yoga and if I bottle feed I won’t be too tired to exercise either! My boobs won’t get bigger and sag (they’re already 34F), so my self-image and confidence won’t take a major hit – hence ‘forumla might be expensive, but it’s still cheaper then a Boob Job’.

A happy confident mum makes a happy and content husband and child =P



You need a Kick in the Head: Part 1 April 20, 2009

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Interesting day yesterday in which Sod’s Law once again proved that being Bored is much better then something worse happening. I admit I’ve been listless lately – I’ve been limited by my decisions and although it will change later in Summer, for now I am forced to relax which doesn’t always sit well with me. For now I’ll just say that if you are bored with life – and can’t change that right now – be happy that you’re bored and that you haven’t been robbed or arrested for assault. Yep – interesting day!

On a different note I found a great Comic today which I’ve been making my way through – It’s called ‘Kick in the Head’ and is drawn by Derek Lieu and as of tomorrow has hit his 2000th comic strip! 1 Which I’m obviously grateful for as ‘Kick in the Head’ has been cheering me up all day. Personally I’d say go read it all, but if you haven’t got my kinda time – at least take a look – here’s some of the things that have been brought up in the strips that I felt eager to comment on:

kitty Now I’ve never heard of this film before – which is quite sad if the trailer is anything to go by, got quite a few chuckles from me:

kitty Why do we eat cereal with milk? Personally I eat it without milk – but I’d never go so far as to think of adding saying fruit juice or coke instead of milk – weird. Apparently “when cereals were first invented, water was used. To add protein milk was substituted. Since Kellogg started the cereal revolution with their health camp in Battle Creek, it’d be a good guess that’s where it started.” and as for the thought of adding orange juice:

For those that are Lactose intolerent this was quite common til medication was developed to assist in that problem. A good friend of my families has been doing this for like 30 yrs or so since he found out he was intolerent to dairy products. He says he prefers it this way now over using Soy milk and on some cereals its actually pretty good like Granola I think its better then milk but thats just my opinion.

I might try it one day but I usually gussle orange juice so fast it doesn’t last til breakfast – that and I’d have to start eating breakfast.

kitty The joys of being a Final Fantasy Fan: Which is really weird because the same thing basically happened to me 🙂 I love finding things to look forward to and FF never fails to impress – right now it’s the much anticipated Final Fantasy XIII which comes at the end of the year. 11

kitty3 2003-10-25

Exactly what life is like at the moment – though I’ve learnt its up to you to make it a good day despite your circumstances.

Obviously I couldn’t comment on everything and quite honestly if I did, it probably wouldn’t be as funny when you went to read it yourself *hint hint*. It is interesting, amusing and quite alot of the time true =P, in the authors’ own words:

The thing most important about my comic to me is that it keeps me creative if for only fifteen minutes a day. I treat is as a way to both keep an archive of things I find amusing and to hopefully entertain people at the same time.

So why is this titled ‘Part One’? Because the things I’ve mentioned are only from the 2003 strips – I know! I have 6 more years to catch up on. As you may have noticed his blog: Derek’s Nerdblog has been added to my favourites – along side the reason I found it – his partner ‘Anna the Red’s Bento Blog. Slightly jealous of this couple’s creativity 40 Alas glad they’re updating us on the web!



10 Visually Stunning Movies April 18, 2009

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I have to credit this entirely to ‘The 10 Most Visually Stunning Movies of the Last Ten Years’ but I was so taken with the idea – I like movies, adore them – addicted to them, but I love film trailers more – I’ve always been inspired by them and in fact would prefer to sit and watch 2 hours of trailers then a film. Alas inject a little fantasy into your day and watch the trailers of the rundown of what are, some very beautiful pieces of work.



Speed Racer


The Fall


Sin City


The Matrix Reloaded


What Dreams May Come








The Fountain

There you have it – an interesting mix and hopefully a successful (note my mood) filler post due to strep throat making me a little worse for wear – Anyho have a nice day, or tomorrow – ah hell, have a nice week. 1


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50 Ways to Brighten a Day April 17, 2009

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Strange Day – I woke up at 4am and couldn’t sleep for a few hours, luckily that’s the same time it gets light at the moment. I spent the morning rather cheerful and then a strange mood fell over me, it wasn’t boredom and I wasn’t upset or sad – I just couldn’t see the point of anything I was doing. I didn’t like it and don’t know what caused it – perhaps the fact that I’m coming down with Strep Throat again – which is the second time in three weeks (not good – the doctor will probably tell me I have to have my tonsils out, plus the infection is rather risky for the baby 28). I can’t do anything about it though til my appointment on Thursday and I’m not one to stay in a bad mood – not when it’s much more fun to be happy 40

to-teh-rescueI was inspired for this post by 75 Simple Pleasures to brighten your day written by Leo from Zen Habits which is as you should know – one my my favourite blogs and if you haven’t visited him yet I suggest you do! I couldn’t manage 75 – but I did manage 50 ways in which my day gets brighter, it really cheered me up and I’d suggest giving it a go if you ever feel listless. So without much futher ado here is my ’50 Ways to Brighten a Day’:

kitty3 Waking up to Sunshine

2. The  ‘Morning Hug, Morning Kiss’ routine me and my husband do

3. A Cup of Coffee

4. Walking Barefoot – anywhere (Zen Habits specifys in grass, but the beach – to Tescos, in the garden, around home, whilst driving all do it for me)

kitty3 The zingy taste of Grapefruit for Breakfast

6. Learning something new and interesting: Try this -Wikipedia’s Random Function

7. My cats when they chirp

8. Dusk (which happens to be my favourite time of day)

9. Any time it rains, walking in the rain, getting wet

kitty3 Singing as loud as I can

11. Dancing around the room

12. Eating red and blue cola bottles. thumb_pink_blue_bottles

13. Hugs from anyone


14. Seeing my belly grow

kitty3 Having a philosophical conversation especially on Descartes Mediation 3

16. Drinking Cream Soda

17. Watching a great film – My favourite:

”    Nana, Live Action. A Little Princess (1996), Amelia, Anna and the King (1999), Cruel Intentions, Dirty Dancing 2: Havana Nights, Groundhog Day, Hairspray, Howl’s Moving Castle, Lost in Translation, Memoirs of a Geisha, Moulin Rouge, Mulan, Only Yesterday, Practical Magic (1999), Prime, P.S.I Love You, Tank Girl, The Craft, The Terminal, Treasure Planet”

18. Cleaning my room/being in a clean room

19. Not being Ill

kitty3 Taking a long shower

21. Making someone smile

22. Looking at the Stars

23. Going swimming

24. Listening to someone mowing their lawn (it reminds me of Summer)

kitty3 Getting a massage

26. Talking about the future

27. Watching a funny video

28. Blowing bubbles

29. Spending time on a trampoline

kitty3 Making a list and completing it

31. Writing a good blog entry

32. Getting to a new level in Pet Society

33. Fresh Air

34. Sex

kitty3 Making a new friend

36. Watching the F1

It’s the Chinese Grand Prix this weekend! The Qualifier starts at 6am here and it’s going to be exciting – this is the first week since the FIA decided the ‘diffusers’  which have been making Brawns unstoppable are legal and so it’s time for Hamilton to prove that Button is only winning because of his car 🙂 Read more I can’t wait.

37. Giving to Charity/Buying a Big Issue

38. Listening to my ‘Happy Playlist’

39. Having Fresh Flowers in the room

kitty3 Finding a new picture on deviantART that I love 🙂

41. Eating Oreos and Drinking Milk

42. Hearing Him say ‘I Love You’

43. Seeing a Rainbow

44. Reading a Fairytale

kitty3 Taking some time out to daydream

46. An update on Ding!, Least I could do, Headtrip or Dominic Deegan.


47. Reading Blog updates from my favourites list and making a great find – i.e. Anna the Red’s Domo-kun marshmallow entry.


48. Finding a new site for my bookmarks – i.e. Obento! on Flickr

49. Browsing and finding something gorgeous ❤


kitty3 Falling Asleep


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Private Post April 16, 2009

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I just wrote and published a post called ‘Little Miss Positivity’ only to make it privately viewable. It’s about the last year of my life and covers alot of misery – being homeless, going without food, being disowned by my family, being harassed by a drug dealer, losing my job, having a miscarriage – and I just felt that for now – it was too personal to make it publicly viewable. Not only that but although it ended with a positive message, it was kind of depressing. I wrote it because a friend brought up a few subjects and it got me thinking about what we really know about people’s lives. Listening to me, talking to me and knowing me – you would have no idea of the hardships I’ve been through – and my positive attitude would more then likely annoy anyone who felt like ‘noone understood them’. The point of my post was to show that you can never know what someone is or has been through and therefore it seems silly to be upset that everyone else seems to have an easier life then you or be upset because they don’t seem to understand you. I only know this because I used to be guilty of it myself. Here’s the last paragraph:

“What I’m trying to say is – Be Happy – if you’re not, figure out why and go for it – there’s too much sorrow in life to make your own. It’s too easy to be happy for you not to be. Sadness is what takes effort – that’s why it drains you. Be happy you even have family, or you have food, or the sun is shining, or it’s Thursday. Be Happy that you can see, have assess to the internet, can walk – be happy that if you’re upset the natural rule of life is change and so it will.”

singing-happyIf you are actually interested in reading it – feel free to contact me and I’ll e-mail it 🙂 But for now, I don’t really like talking about myself or my misfortunes – I mean who wants to hear about mine when they are going through their own?  and anyway I’d like to keep this blog upbeat and interesting 😛

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